Questionable Parenting

[SILVERPATCHES]

I know this might be a contrversial topic but I felt the need to bring it up any way. Yesterday on the news, there was a woman in Pennsyvania in court on charges of possesion of marijuana and smoking it with her 13-year old son(apparently it was a reward for him doing his homework). What in the world would posses a person to do something so stupid as that? The only reason I'm bringing this topic up is because I think this is a very serious issue. I don't want to sound like I'm attacking all parents or anything like that, but a lot of times people tend to blame outside sources(media, video games, etc.) for having a destructive influence on teens and children. What about when issues of parenting(as in the above example) come into question?

[YamPuff]

Blame the parents. Who buys them video games? Who lets them watch TV? Who neglects them? The parents. The media has absolutely nothing to do with it. If you are going to bring human bengs into this world, than take responsibilty for it and stop blaming everyone and his dog for your problems. *rant*

[Gogatsu]

I saw that on the news like a month ago, but she had just been arrested.

[Aratos]

It;s only marijuana. Not like it's something universally ilegal.

[Vicious]

Wow, I got more distracted by Yampoof's siggy than the actual thread.

It;s only marijuana. Not like it's something universally ilegal.
We could say the same for Prostitution. It's not universally illegal either but parents should know better.

But anyways, it's the parents choice on how they raise a child. If they feel they are more comfortable raising them like a brother or sister than that's how they'll raise them. Sure Marijuana isn't ALL that bad, but if a mother sees that as a way to get a long with a child then the mother would most likely do it.

I'm sure in this modern day society, most teenagers do not get a long with their parents or don't even have just a casual conversation. Teenagers are either doing drugs, having sex, doing anything they can to be cool rather than to stay home and be with their family. To be honest, I could understand how what the mother is trying to do. She's just trying to give the child what he wants even if it isn't good.

[Aratos]

Child prostitution's sick, though.

[YamPuff]

Wow, I got more distracted by Yampoof's siggy than the actual thread.
All part of my plan...
We could say the same for Prostitution. It's not universally illegal either but parents should know better.

But anyways, it's the parents choice on how they raise a child. If they feel they are more comfortable raising them like a brother or sister than that's how they'll raise them. Sure Marijuana isn't ALL that bad, but if a mother sees that as a way to get a long with a child then the mother would most likely do it.

I'm sure in this modern day society, most teenagers do not get a long with their parents or don't even have just a casual conversation. Teenagers are either doing drugs, having sex, doing anything they can to be cool rather than to stay home and be with their family. To be honest, I could understand how what the mother is trying to do. She's just trying to give the child what he wants even if it isn't good.
Pretty much what I think, I mean, if she was giving him a beer they wouldn't be making half the fuss over it all (I think). I suppose smoking marijuana with your mom is better than in a dark alley with some sketchy friends. I mean, they don't arrest parents for having kids who are drug addicts, do they? But a parent who tries to keep them from it by something like this is evil...people need to get some things straight. Iyts not that i think its ok for her to have done that, but still...

And I think prostitution in any form is sick.

[Aratos]

And I think prostitution in any form is sick.

Freedom of action, innit? I mean, if they want to go sell their bodies for sex, more power to them. Or something. Morally dubious, sure, but who does it harm in the long run? no-one really.

[shadowmose]

And I think prostitution in any form is sick.

Even between two consenting adults?

Blame the parents. Who buys them video games? Who lets them watch TV? Who neglects them? The parents. The media has absolutely nothing to do with it. If you are going to bring human bengs into this world, than take responsibilty for it and stop blaming everyone and his dog for your problems. *rant*

I agree as well. Oh no! I'm agreeing with YamPuff, surely this must be the sign of the end times. :p

[Ichigosmiles]

Alot of times, kids do bad stuff because their parents don't give them enough attention so they think by doing bad stuff, they'll get more attention that way. It sounds stupid but I know it's true. But I agree with Yampuff, it is the parents fault for even buying them what they have.

[Animechick20]

Don't get me started on half the stuff in this thread becuse I won't stop, being a parent myself (yes I know Kanaede is only one!) I would never smoke a joint with her, I've never even done it, there are better rewards than drugs and yes even though it's not that bad it does enough damage long term (impotency) and prostitution well... what about all the STD's around (they are supposed to use condoms but not eveyone does!) We are fast becoming a world full of STD's because people don't protect themselves! I really don't see how people can degrade themselves by selling their bodies!!!!!

[renrenren]

nowdays parents are so messed up & don't pay attention to their kids & the kids have so little to learn from them which is why there's so many kids gone wrong or with low education in america. i knew someone whose parents smoked that crap & i thought it was 1 of the dumbest things but what can you except from white trash? no offense to white people in general who are not trash. or i hope...

[Gogatsu]

nowdays parents are so messed up

What do you mean nowdays, its always been like that, no matter what decade. I may edit this later to show examples or something, but don't get your hopes up.
I'm so lazy I'll take a 5 minute breaks before I finish a post. I have to pace myself.

[renrenren]

What do you mean nowdays, its always been like that, no matter what decade. I may edit this later to show examples or something, but don't get your hopes up.
I'm so lazy I'll take a 5 minute breaks before I finish a post. I have to pace myself.

lol true... but i meant that they get more & more messed up as the kids also get more & more messed up thanks to it. i mean my parents are strict as hell but never taught me from the major rights & wrongs. it's a good thing i had my own conscience. other than that they nose in on what they shouldn't & don't pay attention to what they should. bad parents bad!

[YamPuff]

Actually, parents are still parents, but the main factor is that nowadays the woman usually works. Leaving the child to his own devices most of the time. There was always a parent around, now there isn't. Add to that the fact that the kids never have anything to do, whereas there were more chores ans stuff to do back than, they do things out of boredom. And there's more bad things to get into and its easier to do nowadays.

[Nekochii]

I actually don't find it that big of a deal. So she let her kid smoke marajuana, who cares? He probably would have done it anyway. Lots of parents give their kids drugs, even if the kid dosen't want it. Ever heard of ridilin? Who the hell would give their kid that stuff? It turns them into freakin' zombies. At least this was just a one time thing and it was in their own home. Don't get me wrong. I don't support her actions in any way, but this wasn't a little kid, this was a 13 year old adolesent who is old enough to make his own decisions. If decided to participate in the drug use then he's no better than the mother who offered it to him in the first place.

[AnimeDudde]

Being a kid, I can say its entirely my fault that I am what I am... My parents raised me fine and did/still do exactly what they are supposed to do. But at a certain point the kid has to realize his/her own responsilities too and shouldnt be so pampered :S Once kids are 11 or 12, they like doing things on their own and making their own decisions, and A lot of parents just cant control what they do whether its at school, with their friends, on the computer etc...

Except of course in this case its the moms fault too>.> She obviously wasnt doing what she was supposed to be doing.

EDIT: Exactly like Nekoichii said, the kid can make his own decisions, he's 13 dammit.

[Gogatsu]

EDIT: Exactly like Nekoichii said, the kid can make his own decisions, he's 13 dammit.

She could of pressured him into it. She may have threaten to tell his friends or something ad they'd stop hanging out with him. He was feeling peer pressure from his mom.

[Aratos]

Tell his friends he wasn't taking drugs? There's a novel way of doing it.

[Gogatsu]

Tell his friends he wasn't taking drugs? There's a novel way of doing it.

She just wants him to fit in, but she doesn't want him to lie about doing drugs, because lying is wrong. So when his friends ask that question "Have you ever got high before" he can honestly say yes I have. His mom would be proud and she should be. How many parents can say they’ve raised an honest stoners?

[Aratos]

That's one way of looking at it I guess....

[Gogatsu]

Since this thread is called questionable parenting I have to ask what people think about beating children. Is it ok to hit them if your child takes a swing at you with a lemonade pitcher?

[Aratos]

Of course not! It's ok lock them up in the dark for a few hours though.

If y'ask me, spanking small children every so often's ok as long as it's done in moderation. And not constantly. Or hard enough to damage them. Certainly never did me any harm.

[Gogatsu]

Of course not!


What age do you think its appropriate? What about about a ten year old; he may be big for his age.

[Aratos]

a ten year old? Goodness no. maybe ~5 or 6 at most.

[Nekochii]

I don't think it's a good idea to beat your kids. As they grow up and get bigger and bigger, you'll get older and smaller, and soon it'll be their turn to wack you around.

[Aratos]

Beating's one thing. Corporal punishment's another. It's all in the levels of aggresion/

[Kaoru]

How can you even consider hitting a child?

[Aratos]

I repeat: never did me any harm. Least not as much as the falling off walls, tripping up and splitting my head open, being attacked with rocks...

[SweetNymph]

Sometimes they jsut need a swat on the tush, but I wouldn't make it the primary form of discipline.

I used to work with 2-year-olds once a week (now every other week), and it seemed to me that when one of the workers told the child what they did was wrong (like pushing or hitting) rather than just going to a time out or something, the kid wouldn't do it again (that day, at least). Granted they are only 2, but they can verbally communicate so long as the words are something they'd understand.

Actually, parents are still parents, but the main factor is that nowadays the woman usually works. Leaving the child to his own devices most of the time. There was always a parent around, now there isn't. Add to that the fact that the kids never have anything to do, whereas there were more chores ans stuff to do back than, they do things out of boredom. And there's more bad things to get into and its easier to do nowadays.

However, leaving a child with a responsible babysitter or in an after-school program will give them social skills and teach them to respect authority besides their parents.

Leaving a kid too young and/or immature to take care of themselves is neglect. And many parents neglect their children even if they ARE at home. Having a parent around all the time doesn't guarentee anything, and not having a parent around all the time doesn't guarentee problems.

By the time my sister was in Junior High, my mom just left us alone since we were had been taking care of ourselves for years, due to really bad ADULT babysitters. The problem wasn't that we didn't have an adult around, but that we didn't have many boundaries or responsibilities. After moving in with my Grandparents, I had chores to do and limits on what I could do. Nowadays, if they go on a trip and i'm taking care of the house alone, I'm more responsible than when they ARE there.

How young does anyone thing kids should start getting chores? I think that as soon as they can take toys out, then can help put them away. Back to my 2-year olds, before we go outside to play, I make a big announcment that we just have to put things away, and most of them start putting them away where they got them from.

[Kaoru]

I repeat: never did me any harm. Least not as much as the falling off walls, tripping up and splitting my head open, being attacked with rocks...
Well not everybody's like you. Some kids get traumatized by that kind of stuff. That's why most people in the civilized world don't do it anymore. Like me, I was never hit as a kid and I've turned out fine.

[Aratos]

But most people in the civilised world _did_ give kids the odd smack up until it became ilegal thanks to the NSPCC. Aparently.

Hell, that's why we banned the belt in british schools: because only parents should whack their kids, aparently.

[Kaoru]

Here in the US we have child abuse laws. You hit your kid, police find out, you go to jail. Unless it's just like a little slap or something.

[Aratos]

Well here it's much more humane. "no reddening of the skin". Yeah. Mad.

[SweetNymph]

The laws were made because a lot of people SERIOUSLY hurt their kids in the name of reasonable discipline. But I still think that it's better for the kid to know WHAT he or she did that was wrong, and WHY it was wrong before they get disciplined.

Of course, kids also emulate their parents. In Psychology class several years ago, we discussed an incident where a 3-year-old killed a baby by hitting it on the head with something. She was saying "Bad baby", liek she was punishing him. Guess waht her parents did for discipline?

[Aratos]

Hitting on the head isn't quite what I was talking about...

[SweetNymph]

I know. I was giving an example as to why we have so many laws that prohibit hitting kids.

[Nekochii]

The best way to disipline your kids is to buy them a cute little bunny and when ever they are misbehaving, put a gun to the bunny's head and threaten to kill it if they don't settle down. It worked with the kids on South Park.

[YamPuff]

@Nekochii, I hope you're joking because that can cause seious trauma and fear on the child's part. Imagine the fear if he knocks over a glass of milk by accident...:eek:
Since this thread is called questionable parenting I have to ask what people think about beating children. Is it ok to hit them if your child takes a swing at you with a lemonade pitcher?
Yes--yes--YES! I was raised, as were my three siblings in the 'old-school' manner. We've all been hit at one time or other in our lives. I also part-raised my sis, who's 10 years younger than me. I have slapped and/or spankd her before and yet we are the best of friends, as I am with my mom. Wer are none of us traumatised in any way. And we are not spoiled rotton brats, like many children raised in what people call the 'civilised' manner. Yes, yes, we are barbarians. But we were role model students, get good grades, don't smoke or drink, have no phsychological problems, no eating disorders, and are respectful to all. Horrible what they did to us, really.

The question isn't the spanking itself, but how it is carried out and how the parent interacts with the child. We were hit for serious things, but we were always told what we did wrong and why and never got a serious beating--(except my brother, who can be trouble. ><)

My brother was a troublesome kid who ws hyperactive, but hitting him didn't do much. One instance was when he kept climbing up onto to the stove and playing with it. Major danger. So when hitting failed to work, my mom found a better punishment; his fear of being alone in a room. For about...5 minutes? Well, he stopped climbing on the stove. And no lasting trauma, he has no problems being alone in a room. As for me and my younger sibs, a slap was all we needed to bring us back in line.

Anf frankly, the parents who need to be punished are the ones who have pregnant thirteen-year olds and ten years olds who smoke and have oral sex on busses. Not the ones who actually try and -gasp- discipline their child. I mean, there was a woman on the news who was on trial because she punished her daughter for playing hooky from school. So its better to let your kids play hooky than punish them? Because the 'naughty corner' treatment doesn't solve all.
How young does anyone thing kids should start getting chores? I think that as soon as they can take toys out, then can help put them away. Back to my 2-year olds, before we go outside to play, I make a big announcment that we just have to put things away, and most of them start putting them away where they got them from.
Kids should do chores. Anything they can do. There is really nothing bad about having them do some work and many good things.

Is watching the TV better than doing chores? Apparantly some people think so. :rolleyes:

[Gogatsu]

There is nothing wrong with power bombing your child through a table if he or she hit you with a chair first. Seriously at a certain age I think its ok, like earlier teens when they think they're invincible. Its better for them to be render unconscious in the privacy of their own home then realizing they’re not so unstoppable when they’re getting the turds kick out of the, by three classmates in the school courtyard.

[Nekochii]

@Nekochii, I hope you're joking because that can cause seious trauma and fear on the child's part. Imagine the fear if he knocks over a glass of milk by accident...:eek:
Of course I'm only joking. I guess next time I should put one of these ":p" at the end of my post to indicate that I'm just joking around.

[YamPuff]

@GogatsuYeah, I mean, why is your kid allowed to beat the **** out of you and you can't return the favor? Kids aren't Holy Things.
Of course I'm only joking. I guess next time I should put one of these ":p" at the end of my post to indicate that I'm just joking around.
I was just kidding, I knew you were joking. XD

[SweetNymph]

There is nothing wrong with power bombing your child through a table if he or she hit you with a chair first. Seriously at a certain age I think its ok, like earlier teens when they think they're invincible. Its better for them to be render unconscious in the privacy of their own home then realizing they’re not so unstoppable when they’re getting the turds kick out of the, by three classmates in the school courtyard.

If they were properly discipline when they were younger, they wouldn 't be hitting anyone with a chair.

[Gogatsu]

If they were properly discipline when they were younger, they wouldn 't be hitting anyone with a chair.


I said earlyr teens.

Those raging hormones are unpredictable, so the kid may not have had his five minutes of private time in the bathroom and is a little cranky.

[Ichigosmiles]

Since this thread is called questionable parenting I have to ask what people think about beating children. Is it ok to hit them if your child takes a swing at you with a lemonade pitcher?

Well, besides kicking their ass, I would just tie them up and lock them in the basement with the lights out for a good 24 hours:D

[Gogatsu]

Just a few minutes ago I had a two year repeatedly hit me in the face with a sock while I was trying to type something on the computer. Did I want to round house kick her .... yes, but I didn’t and you know why, because she would have started crying and there is nothing more unbearable then a baby’s cry.

[Kaoru]

There is nothing wrong with power bombing your child through a table if he or she hit you with a chair first.
Haha, that's funny.

[YamPuff]

Well, besides kicking their ass, I would just tie them up and lock them in the basement with the lights out for a good 24 hours:D
That's why my parents would do if we ever pulled a stunt like that.

Speaking of these things, I remember my father had an old-fashioned swich in the house, a long, skinny, flexible piece of wood known to us as...The Stick! :eek: We were terrified of it because it made this whistling sound like a whip when you swung it fast. I don't think he ever even used it on us once, but when we used to play he would take it down and we'd all run screaming to lock ourselves in the bathroom. He's such a soft-shell, my dad. It was a great threatening device, anyway. ^^ Great childhood memories...though some people would think otherwise.

[Gogatsu]

Speaking of these things, I remember my father had an old-fashioned swich in the house, a long, skinny, flexible piece of wood known to us as...The Stick!

Sounds interesting. If you were a clever child you would try to bear the slashing and make you parents think you enjoy it. It would sike them out and it forces then to find another way to punish you. Some people grow up wanting people to beat them.

[YamPuff]

Well, like I said, he never actually used it on us, it was just an object to inspire the utmost fear. :p And I nebver needed much punishing anyway...I was the all-around goodie-two-shoe.

[Nekochii]

I keep on seeing this show called Nanny 911 where if the child misbehaves, he/she is sent to what they call the naughty corner or chair. The results are always the same, the kid just gets up and runs away and the parents are forced to run around chasing after their kids for hours on end while the nanny sits back and lectures them. Personally, I'd just buy a naughty cage. That way they can't escape.

Well, besides kicking their ass, I would just tie them up and lock them in the basement with the lights out for a good 24 hours:D
Actually that sounds kind of fun. It beats having to here my mom b*tch at me for 2 hours.

[YamPuff]

I keep on seeing this show called Nanny 911 where if the child misbehaves, he/she is sent to what they call the naughty corner or chair. The results are always the same, the kid just gets up and runs away and the parents are forced to run around chasing after their kids for hours on end while the nanny sits back and lectures them. Personally, I'd just buy a naughty cage. That way they can't escape.

Actually that sounds kind of fun. It beats having to here my mom b*tch at me for 2 hours.
Parent's lectures are never fun T____T

I know for a fact the 'naughty corner' concept woiuld never have worked on me because I enjoyed sitting by myself and imagining things. I was a very shy kid and enjoyed sitting quietly. My brother it would have worked on; I mentioned before my mom would put him alone in a room (aka naughty cage :p)for a few minutes when he was very bad. He'd scream bloody murder over that.

[chocopocko]

instaed of getting hit or whatever when i was bad, i got stuff when i was good. a cookie, a M&M, whatever, something sweet. thus i was always trying to be good to get more.
but if i did do something bad, my dad would yell at me. i seriously cant take people yelling at me, i freak. i cover my ears, run aways, whatever. or he would take away something fun, like TV.
so us non-beat up kids turned out fine, except for being addicted to sugar.

[Ichigosmiles]

That's why my parents would do if we ever pulled a stunt like that.


Whaaaa, poor Yampuff!:(

[KaYoKitten]

The thing with parents is that they NEED to absolutely understand that they MUST communicate on every level. They both need to participate in how their child is punished. And God, PLEASE hit a kid who deserves it! My dad used a leather belt on my rear end four times when I was a kid--I was a really bad kid, though. ^^; I actually wasn't someone you'd wanna hang around with...but it also confused me, too. My mother would pat us on the head and tell us "now don't do that again, Sarah/Matthew" and my dad would lock us in our rooms, ground us from seeing friends, and all that.

My dad was only around about 3 months a year up until I was 12.

I was never told to do chores. I never even had to keep my room clean. I REALLY wish now that my mom had taught me a bit more discipline, a bit more order, y'know? I have this little mishmash of discipline that I got from my dad and from doing JROTC and an organizing class earlier in college. I've taught myself how to clean and I learned the hard way how to cook. I learned by watching TV, really, because I had no other way to do it. My mother didn't want me to learn how to cook or clean or do laundry. I'm not putting my mother down--I love her to death, and she's one of my best friends.

But unfortunately, here is the thing about my mom: she never grew up. All of the responsibilities that she has, she does out of a have-to policy. For the most part, it works. But it really makes her a terrible parent. When we were younger, we used to go behind my father's back to do things we weren't supposed to--my mother and me, that is. She was more like an older sister than my mom sometimes.

I more or less became my own parent because I had to learn things myself. Unfortunately, it makes me very...unbalanced. In some things, like personal responsibilities like laundry, cleaning, neatness, schedules and such, I'm a very mature and independent person. In others, however, I feel like I never grew up past the age of 12, where my father suddenly came full-time into my life. However, he'd considered me "old enough" to not need punishment--and really, I didn't need it anyway.

Because by then, I was still getting awesome grades (I was a straight-A student until I graduated high school). I never spoke out (in fact, I rarely speak at all). I never acted out and why would I? I had no influences TO act out in the first place. I kept my nose in books. And when I finally achieved a small handful of tiny quirks, no one thought to suppress it. Because really, what harm would come from letting me watch anime? What harm would come from letting me write? From letting me doodle in my notes at school, so long as I still maintained my grades?

In light of both of my parents, though, the complete inbalance I grew up with as the oldest daughter...I really don't plan on having children of my own. Because I would not make a good parent--just like my mother before me, unfortunately. ^^;

[YamPuff]

The thing with parents is that they NEED to absolutely understand that they MUST communicate on every level. They both need to participate in how their child is punished. And God, PLEASE hit a kid who deserves it! My dad used a leather belt on my rear end four times when I was a kid--I was a really bad kid, though. ^^;
I completely agree with you on that point. My father was rough on my older brother a few times, too, but he deserved what he got every time.

A child isn't stupid; if they got hit for being bad they know they deserved it and won't get all traumatic.
instaed of getting hit or whatever when i was bad, i got stuff when i was good. a cookie, a M&M, whatever, something sweet. thus i was always trying to be good to get more.
but if i did do something bad, my dad would yell at me. i seriously cant take people yelling at me, i freak. i cover my ears, run aways, whatever. or he would take away something fun, like TV.
so us non-beat up kids turned out fine, except for being addicted to sugar.
Well, there is one problem. The fact that you get used to being rewarded for doing good things, rather than doing good things for the sake of doing them. It could -maybe- make a kid only do something for someone if he knows he'll get a reward.

The idea is not so much whether or not you hit, but like UK said, the parent's communication with the kids. There is no one single punishment; something that will mortify one kid, like in your case, yelling, will not bother another kid at all. You can raise a perfectly wondrful child without ever hitting them once and you can raise a perfectly rotton one and beat them regularly. There's no 'one best way'.
Whaaaa, poor Yampuff!:(
Don't feel bad; I completely agree with them on that point and have a great relationship with my parents.. XD

[Gogatsu]

instaed of getting hit or whatever when i was bad, i got stuff when i was good. a cookie, a M&M, whatever, something sweet. thus i was always trying to be good to get more.


I don't eat M&M because I choke on one as a child and from that day forward I said I would never eat another again. It was a brown M&M just incase you're wondering what color it was. Anywho, I think that sort of parenting makes your child spoiled and teaches them that they should expect a hand out if they do something good. For example if you chase after and tackle a guy who just stole some old ladies purses and then you take a few buck out of her purses because you just did something good for her is that ok...NO! Well that is what your parents are teaching you and they need to think of anther way to discipline.

Another thing, constantly giving a child sweets as a reward can have a disastrous effect in the future. They could end up being a diabetic or obese and they may have to spend a lot of money on dental work and the list just goes on and on. I think the list goes on, those were the only three I could think of. I was going to say something about sugar making you hyper or sex crazed but I know no one was gonna go for it or would they?

[Ichigosmiles]

Basically it all depends on the child and they way they are.

[YamPuff]

Basically it all depends on the child and they way they are.
That's very true. I hate it when people just group up children into one group and say 'do this' and 'do that'.

[Ichigosmiles]

That's very true. I hate it when people just group up children into one group and say 'do this' and 'do that'.

Exactly. You can't treat all kids the same, especially the ones you have to be more patient with like kids with ADD or something.

[Aratos]

Or high-level autism, more importantly. Autistics outnumber ADSDs. Mainly becasue most diagnosese of ADSD are actually just rowdy children, but anywho...

[chocopocko]

I don't eat M&M because I choke on one as a child and from that day forward I said I would never eat another again. It was a brown M&M just incase you're wondering what color it was. Anywho, I think that sort of parenting makes your child spoiled and teaches them that they should expect a hand out if they do something good. For example if you chase after and tackle a guy who just stole some old ladies purses and then you take a few buck out of her purses because you just did something good for her is that ok...NO! Well that is what your parents are teaching you and they need to think of anther way to discipline.

Another thing, constantly giving a child sweets as a reward can have a disastrous effect in the future. They could end up being a diabetic or obese and they may have to spend a lot of money on dental work and the list just goes on and on. I think the list goes on, those were the only three I could think of. I was going to say something about sugar making you hyper or sex crazed but I know no one was gonna go for it or would they?

firstly, i would NEVER take money from some poor old lady i just helped. i know, it was just an example. see, if she just told me thank you, it would make me happy as a lark. because i got candy and ia bit of praise. layter, i didnt get candy, just thanks. i grew of candy, now if someone says good job, im wonderful. cuz i didnt get stuff for every little thing, i had to be REALLY good.

as for effects on my future, im fine, thank you. im not overweight in the slightest, or have diabetes or any other disorder. and i think they might go gfor it. i DO get hyper, but i would have to say no sex-crazed in the least. nor am i on crack or anything. i still got disipline, better than most perople sadly (this is what happens when you go to a rich-girl school). and i have very sensitive since of guilt, i get sad about that tiniest thing. but, in my warped way, i feel bad for days, but never apologize.